The Power of Anger: How Healthy Expression is a Sign of Alignment.

Anger is often misunderstood and unfairly labelled as a negative emotion. However, it carries a vital message for our well-being and personal growth. In this blog post, we will explore how you can channel your anger into a healthy expression, what it means when you feel angry and what you can do about it. Understanding the role of anger can help us navigate our emotions, enhance self-awareness, and foster a more harmonious and fulfilling life.

Often as children, we have been taught to suppress and repress our anger. We were often ashamed to feel angry and quickly taught that it wasn’t an emotion to be expressed. Unfortunately, the more you suppress and repress your anger, the unhealthier the emotion gets until it becomes rage.

Rage isn’t a healthy emotion but that doesn’t mean you have to be ashamed for experiencing it.

All emotions are messages from yourSelf. Your highest Self. Self with a capital ‘S’ as Internal Family Systems Therapy says. This Self is here to help you to experience alignment in your life. Your emotions are simply signs that you are not in alignment. They are messages for you to listen to and act on.

Below is a 4 step process to help process and be in alignment with anger.

Step 1. It’s ok to Feel Angry.

Anger, when expressed in a healthy and constructive manner, serves as a powerful catalyst for change and personal growth. It is an emotion that emerges when our boundaries have been crossed, our values have been compromised, or when we feel unjustly treated. By acknowledging and accepting our anger, we honour our emotions and create space for transformation.

Step 2. So I’m Feeling Angry. What do I do with This Now?

When you’re feeling angry in the moment, you must speak to that part of you that feels angry. Basically, you simply BE with that part of you. That part of you needs recognition and assurance that it’s feeling seen and heard. Once we have spent time with and listening to the anger, the anger will disappear. This is when you can take inspired action towards transforming anger into a healthy expression which is the next step.

Step 3. How to Transform your Anger into a Healthy Expression.

While anger can be healthy and transformative, it is essential to express it in a constructive manner. Unchecked, suppressed or repressed anger can lead to physical and emotional imbalances.

Engaging in practices such as journaling, movement like yoga, breathwork, or seeking support from a counsellor and many other self help practices. These practices can help identify what may be causing you to feel angry and from there you can take the action required to help the part of you that feels angry to transform.

Step 4. Take Inspired Action.

This step involves you to take inspired action. Once you have recognised what the messenger of anger was trying to tell you, you can take action towards changing. It may involve communication your needs better and setting boundaries.

Step 5. Inner Child Healing (Bonus Step)

Working with the inner child to realise why you may be out of alignment in the first place can lead to powerful transformation in the future. This can help with any recurrences of anger as you are able to find the root cause of the problem and address it from there.

By reframing our perception of anger and recognizing it as a valuable emotion, we can harness its power to guide us towards alignment and personal growth. Embracing anger as a healthy response empowers us to address unmet needs, set boundaries, and initiate positive change. Remember, it is through understanding and expressing anger constructively that we can create a more harmonious and fulfilling life.